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Confluence

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“As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.”

– Henry David Thoreau 

Maybe you have noticed a transformation. 

Perhaps you are gaining a sense of this. 

Feeling its tug. An awareness of gravity.  How the mass of  your collective thoughts, words and deeds have led you to this instant. 

Impacting someone.  Making something.  Leading somewhere.

For they all matter.  And even now, both they – and you – are still being shaped.  

Taking all that you have been up to now – and making you into what you are to become. The embodiment of all that is the best in you; character, excellence, perseverance and leadership.  

Your intentions then finally and irrevocably become reality.  

A convergence of age, ability, experience. The confluence of discipline, desire and dreams. In something altogether new.  That will stand  alone. That will never happen precisely in this fashion ever again. 

Long ago, each of you entertained the smallest germ of a thought.  A glimmer of a dream. 

At that moment, you decided.  You chose a destination. 

But a  path was needed.  Direction determined.  A pace to be set.   

You let go.  Abandoned yourself for one another.  Subservient for a greater good.  Exerting the will to expend yourself in all aspects of your being. Succumbing to a level of  self-discipline that ultimately created this extraordinary circumstance. 

Creating a singular vision, originating from a common perspective.

“The soul attracts that which it secretly harbours; that which it loves; it reaches the height of its cherished aspirations; … and circumstances are the means by which the soul receives its own.”   – James Allen

What your souls  harbor is especially important right now.  For as I speak, what  you have always wanted is right there. In your path. Within reach.  

The allure of what lay just ahead may be tempting.  You might want to peek. To veer left a little.  Or to the right.  To get up on tippy toes to take a gander. To peer over the top. 

Yet,  you must not stray.

To look ahead is to leave this moment.  Lifting one’s gaze up,  around or under will skew your  trajectory.  A change in perspective will reduce focus.  Obfuscate vision. Dissipate intention.  Impede effort. Foster missteps.  

You could lose sight of your path. 

Distractions are apt to be abundant. Self induced.  Born of doubt. Fear. Expectation. Anticipation.  Yet focus is not meant to exist in the absence of distractions. It is a trait intended to exist in spite of them. 

So just as you chose this path, you must now decide to maintain focus. 

To honor your  vision regardless of the situation. Committing to preserve that most singular and proper perspective.   To abide by the very essence of discipline.  Expending  unparalleled levels of effort and persistence. Exerting uncommon character and leadership.  Aspiring to the highest standards of attitude and attention. 

To finish.  

To relentlessly pursue  excellence. 

And succeed.   

By setting a tone that rings true to your vision alone.  

Converging on your path.  

So that you all flow together at one point.

In this stand alone  moment. 

Inches 2.0

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Football – like life – is a game of inches. 

Where your foot lay at the line of scrimmage Friday under the lights or Sunday evening during sprints in the fieldhouse. Where the mesh can produce a drive sustaining gain or series ending fumble.  How a sharp break on a route can stymie a defender instead of providing an interception opportunity. Why pad level and leverage will always overcome size. And precise pursuit angles eclipse an explosive offense.  

One would think that given those game changing possibilities, more personal focus and investment would be granted those details.  

The inches. 

I can say with the utmost certainty that if you cannot attend to them now, in the present, you will never be able to call upon them when you choose to define yourself in that one moment.  

So to better understand the inherent gravity of details, I challenge you to consider this:

If a detail by itself is but an ounce – then embracing one, mastering it, incorporating it into how you live and finally making it a part of your being –  becomes a pound.  Not just in terms of pure weight.  But mass.  How you increase your width, depth and breadth.  As an athlete. And as a person.  

In effect, the mere ounces you choose to carry, overcome and own will in time translate into pounds of impact, pressure and “want to”. 

 A force for good that you can exert upon a challenge or chosen endeavor. To the extent that you can essentially roll over a challenge.  Capture a goal.  

Or, crush an opponent.  

Now this assertion has absolutely nothing to do with any known math or science; only the inversely proportional and lasting impact experience has shown me to be true.  

That creating the self discipline to attend to the details will in time assure the success of one’s pursuits.  

On the field.  

And in life. 

Both of which are games of inches.

G=R

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Ralph Marston Jr., an inspirational author once said; “Your goals, minus your doubts, equals your reality.”

If you want, you could take this concept, reduce it even further, and transform it into some simple arithmetic. 

G – D = R

With some effort, a personal commitment and a positive attitude, you can solve for “R”.  And being that you are the one to control the factors, you are also the one that can make the difference.  

A dream is a blueprint. 

A fully illustrated and dimensionalized  rendering of your goals. Creating an image that is so vivid, that you can actually live in it, each step along the way.  

Until you make it your reality.    

That image of what you want to do, where you want to go, and what you want to be, becomes the focal point of everything you do along the way to get there. Then all you need to do is make what is going on out here  match with what you see in your head and what you feel in your heart. 

It requires an extraordinary level of vision to be able to “see” that  goal.

Because you can never afford to lose sight of the present; the moment you are in right now.  This is where all the prep work takes place. Discipline learned.  Commitments made.   Attitudes formed. Character revealed.

Yet you also need to develop the skills to check the horizon, to establish your coordinates and to adjust your long term plans if need be.

If it appears that your destination – the goal – is getting closer, then perhaps your work in the present is paying off. You are making progress, you are affecting your reality. 

And once you get to that point, when you get there, it will be like deja vu all over again. You will have already spent months or years in that moment, in that very place Only this time, you get to actually do it.

However, if you look up and find the horizon seems farther away than when you last looked, or is missing altogether, perhaps it is time to regroup.

It can be at this juncture where doubt can make its presence known.  Excuses, rationalization and self pity will begin to take their toll.  A negative attitude can add to the inertia, increasing drag, acting as an anchor.

Self doubt can begin to slowly destroy your spirit, overshadow your confidence, bury your talent, and push you to simply quit.  The voice within you that always said. “I know I can” grows silent.

Self doubt is a choice, and if you allow it to take root it can diminish the value of your goal substantially.  Allow it to grow and get out of control, self doubt will ultimately erase your goal in its entirety, leaving in its wake, a reality marked by unrealized potential, disappointment and pain.

Your choices wield the power to ignore self doubt’s distractions and  eliminate them altogether.

You can choose to refuse doubt.

With vision, a positive attitude, and the ‘want to’ to eliminate self doubt, the equation for success is simpler yet: goals equal reality.

Or:        

G=R

Expect it.

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ex·pec·ta·tion  noun \ˌek-ˌspek-ˈtā-shən, ik-\  : a belief that something will happen or is likely to happen

In certain respects, expectation is something beyond just simple belief that something may, is likely to or will happen.

To expect is to muster the forces – mental, physical, emotional and spiritual – necessary to produce a desired reality.  To expect is an intention.  To direct ourselves with purpose intentionally.   To do, to be – and –  to give our best.   

The expectations we have and have set firm for ourselves – in the form of personal standards – represent intention.  

A method  of directing ourselves with a higher purpose towards all that we choose to be, where we choose to go and who we choose to become.  In raising the bar high for ourselves, we are setting the tone that can carry us through life. Living our life with expectation can create an abundant supply of opportunity.  An achievement rich environment where both present and even future circumstances will favor us, and in time, even bending to our will.    

Having high expectations and personal standards  affirms and reflects our true self and character. It displays our commitment to always and without hesitation “do” and “be” our absolute best.  

In time, as we “do” and “be” our best, we will gain confidence and develop a sense of growing mastery.  We will no longer feel the need to be so focused inward, but rather detect  a tug to look outward. Beyond ourselves. And, to share.  Then, we will be in a position to make a very intentional,  personal statement with the utmost certainty.  

To always “give” our best. 

For in one sense, to “do” and to “be” our best represents only a beginning.  Learning  to “give” our best acts to connect us to some very powerful, lasting and positive thoughts in an entirely different realm of deeds. To be able to develop beyond a  “do our best” mode of living and grow into a “give our best” way of being, we are raising that  bar of expectation again, once more.  

Establishing for ourselves a brand new standard. An expectation born of personal growth. One of sacrifice.  A declaration that our original commitment to “do”  and “be” has now become one of “to give”. That we will make the best of “what” and “who” we are readily available to all others.  Anyone and everyone.  No strings attached.  Whenever,  wherever, however.  And therein lies the opportunity.  

Giving the best of “what” and “who” we are shows others how much they are valued.  Confirming  to them how important their achievement and success is to each one of us.  It shows them just how much they are  loved.  Telling  them in no uncertain terms that “you deserve the absolute best of me“. 

Giving our best to others isn’t about economics, transactions or a “quid pro quo”.  Giving others your best is never about an expectation of getting anything in return. Giving your best to others is what you are made for.  It is the right thing to do,  for their sake and ultimately yours as well.

By giving your best, you are “coaching up” others to aspire to always do their best.  In the process, you live and breathe that mindset of high expectation and standards. You gain a level of comfort operating within a personal universe marked by high expectations, a dedication to striving for optimal performance and pursuing excellence. 

By giving our best, we allow others to share that same achievement-rich environment where both present and future circumstances will conspire to favor all, bending to our collective will.   

Don’t merely believe that something may or will happen.  

Expect it.

Trading up.

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” My grandfather told me…”to accomplish anything worthwhile, you must pay the price.”  My dad taught me that nothing in life would come easy.  That I would have to work for those things that I wanted.  But work cannot be narrowly defined in only a physical sense.  Work is also a mental, emotional and spiritual endeavor as well. 

As I grew up, I also came to learn and appreciate that achievement, excellence and success is not a matter of destiny, fate, timing or being in the right place at the right time.  For that would mean that we live by chance rather than being guided by intention.  To live solely by chance would negate the value and virtue of our effort and commitment.  Our perseverance and sacrifice.  And ultimately, our purpose.  

I learned that in order to “be” or “become” – you needed to intend to “be” or “become”.  To be purposeful in your thoughts, words and deeds.  I found that to live with intention – and intentionally – is to be guided by purpose. 

There will always be a price to pay if you live with intention.  If you are purposeful in all that you do.  You will have to “give up” to “go up”. You will need to leave some of who and what you “are” behind in order to get to where you want to go.  To become what and who you want to be requires sacrifice.  And this isn’t easy.  

I can assure you that the suffering you encounter along the way  – whether physical, mental, emotional or spiritual in nature – will be temporary.   You are simply giving up comfort, familiarity and the certain in order to press ahead, grow and become what you were intended to be.  

You are “trading up”. And after all, wasn’t that  your intention?  ”                                          

Pastor Ellsworth Freyer