Saints

“Something I shared with all back in 2017. Came across it tonight and thought it good to share again. This made me misty eyed, but he still makes me smile. “

To set the tone for this day and his homily this evening, Father Matthew sought to describe the essence of a saint. Part of which resonated with this author.

“Someone that does what they do, the way that they do it”.

Rick Hader left this world today.

All too soon. And the hurt is palpable. But it is All-Saints Day. He has a chance to play to a much larger crowd, in a storied venue. Doing what he does. The way he does it.

I had the honor of blocking for him in college as a Siwash. He was All-Conference as a running back, and All-American as a role model, man and friend if you ask me. (Rick is #44)

He was just as gifted running between the tackles and catching the ball coming out of the backfield as he was cracking us up. The voices, faces, mannerisms and making his teeth squeaky clean with only an index finger were recurring bits in the dorm, on campus and in the huddle.

He found great joy in making us smile, laugh and forget about things for only a little while.

Now, 37 years later and aided by some hindsight, I now realize he was building his schtick there at Knox College. And creating his persona.

For Myron Noodleman was right there with us all along. But it was just Rick.  Doing what he did. The way he did it.

I would encourage you to take a few moments and read about this national nerd.

It details a wonderful life’s journey from Park Ridge to Broken Arrow. Starting as a janitor, to being a beloved high school math teacher and becoming a diamond doofus.

An All-American role model, man and friend to many that found great joy in making thousands upon thousands of people smile, laugh and forget about things for a while.

Go deeper, between the lines and you will come to know them  both as I. A match now made for heaven. A pair with the guts to listen, heed their calling and fearlessly follow it. And from what I understand, all the way to the end.

Your departure has left a big hole in the lives of many. But there are warm and lasting memories enough to fill it back in, bring a smile to the face, some laughter for the heart and offer many a respite from things for a while.

Just Rick and Myron doing what they did. The way they did it.

Saints if you ask me.

Expect it.

ex·pec·ta·tion  noun \ˌek-ˌspek-ˈtā-shən, ik-\  : a belief that something will happen or is likely to happen

In certain respects, expectation is something beyond just simple belief that something may, is likely to or will happen.

To expect is to muster the forces – mental, physical, emotional and spiritual – necessary to produce a desired reality.  To expect is an intention.  To direct ourselves with purpose intentionally.   To do, to be – and –  to give our best.   

The expectations we have and have set firm for ourselves – in the form of personal standards – represent intention.  

A method  of directing ourselves with a higher purpose towards all that we choose to be, where we choose to go and who we choose to become.  In raising the bar high for ourselves, we are setting the tone that can carry us through life. Living our life with expectation can create an abundant supply of opportunity.  An achievement rich environment where both present and even future circumstances will favor us, and in time, even bending to our will.    

Having high expectations and personal standards  affirms and reflects our true self and character. It displays our commitment to always and without hesitation “do” and “be” our absolute best.  

In time, as we “do” and “be” our best, we will gain confidence and develop a sense of growing mastery.  We will no longer feel the need to be so focused inward, but rather detect  a tug to look outward. Beyond ourselves. And, to share.  Then, we will be in a position to make a very intentional,  personal statement with the utmost certainty.  

To always “give” our best. 

For in one sense, to “do” and to “be” our best represents only a beginning.  Learning  to “give” our best acts to connect us to some very powerful, lasting and positive thoughts in an entirely different realm of deeds. To be able to develop beyond a  “do our best” mode of living and grow into a “give our best” way of being, we are raising that  bar of expectation again, once more.  

Establishing for ourselves a brand new standard. An expectation born of personal growth. One of sacrifice.  A declaration that our original commitment to “do”  and “be” has now become one of “to give”. That we will make the best of “what” and “who” we are readily available to all others.  Anyone and everyone.  No strings attached.  Whenever,  wherever, however.  And therein lies the opportunity.  

Giving the best of “what” and “who” we are shows others how much they are valued.  Confirming  to them how important their achievement and success is to each one of us.  It shows them just how much they are  loved.  Telling  them in no uncertain terms that “you deserve the absolute best of me“. 

Giving our best to others isn’t about economics, transactions or a “quid pro quo”.  Giving others your best is never about an expectation of getting anything in return. Giving your best to others is what you are made for.  It is the right thing to do,  for their sake and ultimately yours as well.

By giving your best, you are “coaching up” others to aspire to always do their best.  In the process, you live and breathe that mindset of high expectation and standards. You gain a level of comfort operating within a personal universe marked by high expectations, a dedication to striving for optimal performance and pursuing excellence. 

By giving our best, we allow others to share that same achievement-rich environment where both present and future circumstances will conspire to favor all, bending to our collective will.   

Don’t merely believe that something may or will happen.  

Expect it.

You.

“What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability. It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.”

  • Tony Robbins

Pushing beyond your known boundaries and limitations will never be an easy proposition.  It takes courage, a high level of resiliency, grit and the utmost in genuine humility.  

Just as you are  getting to only the outer fringes of your abilities, you could encounter failure on the grandest scale.  Venturing out there, simply to see if you can do it could be a souring experience and leave you questioning everything you thought you knew about yourself.  

Talk about an opportunity for some honest self-assessment.

But as you respond,  persevere, move forward, and advance even in the smallest of increments, you are well into the process of finding out who you really are.  You will begin to recognize just what you can do. 

How truly powerful you are. 

Who you are. 

And despite the disappointment, anxiety, and distress that needs to be overcome first and along the way, you will come to recognize  that person was there all along.  

Just waiting.  

Waiting to be found. 

You.

Trading up.

” My grandfather told me…”to accomplish anything worthwhile, you must pay the price.”  My dad taught me that nothing in life would come easy.  That I would have to work for those things that I wanted.  But work cannot be narrowly defined in only a physical sense.  Work is also a mental, emotional and spiritual endeavor as well. 

As I grew up, I also came to learn and appreciate that achievement, excellence and success is not a matter of destiny, fate, timing or being in the right place at the right time.  For that would mean that we live by chance rather than being guided by intention.  To live solely by chance would negate the value and virtue of our effort and commitment.  Our perseverance and sacrifice.  And ultimately, our purpose.  

I learned that in order to “be” or “become” – you needed to intend to “be” or “become”.  To be purposeful in your thoughts, words and deeds.  I found that to live with intention – and intentionally – is to be guided by purpose. 

There will always be a price to pay if you live with intention.  If you are purposeful in all that you do.  You will have to “give up” to “go up”. You will need to leave some of who and what you “are” behind in order to get to where you want to go.  To become what and who you want to be requires sacrifice.  And this isn’t easy.  

I can assure you that the suffering you encounter along the way  – whether physical, mental, emotional or spiritual in nature – will be temporary.   You are simply giving up comfort, familiarity and the certain in order to press ahead, grow and become what you were intended to be.  

You are “trading up”. And after all, wasn’t that  your intention?  ”                                          

Pastor Ellsworth Freyer                

Self.

In order to acquire self mastery, you first need to employ self-discipline.   

Once on the path to self mastery, your opportunities will multiply.  You will be working from a foundation built for achievement, the pursuit of excellence and eventually – success. 

Yet mastery of self  is entirely and exclusively reliant on your attitude.  

A positive attitude will provide you with safe passage. It prevents you from treading down an ever slippery slope of largely self induced emotional blackmail.  It guards you from living down to low expectations.  Protects you from acquiescing to the laws of just being average.  Settling for whatever happens to come your way.  

If you neglect to  master your attitude first – you run the risk of limiting or losing the potential that exists in you; in that moment and in the future.  

A  lack of vigilance when it comes to your attitude can turn you against yourself. 

Pitting opportunity against expediency.  

You can become your own worst enemy.  Choosing the easy way out.  

A route that has led many to react rather than respond. 

A decision to let emotion and pride rule the day.  A poor attitude can and will  run roughshod over your talents and aspirations before you even know it.  

Especially when it comes to responding to even the smallest bit of adversity. 

It can happen in an instant, perhaps in a sequence that goes something like this: 

“Crap.  

Why me?  

Why can’t anything ever be easy, or work the way I want it to?  

Why does this always happen to me?  

When am I going to catch a break. 

I cannot do this any more. 

I wish I was somewhere else. 

Why can’t this day be over?“ 

You see what can happen in the span of about 60 seconds? 

You can react and send yourself plummeting off the deep end to drown in self pity, defeatism and despair.  Yet if you can find it in yourself to respond,  to be positive, you could end up carrying  that same load in this fashion:  

“Wow! 

A challenge made just for me. 

A chance  to test myself again!

I must get all of these opportunities because I can handle them. 

When this one is over, I hope I get another chance to reveal my character.

I can do anything if I give it my best ! 

I am going to make the most of this moment !  

An opportunity like this may never come again.

I am made for this. ”

See how that can work for you?  

It is how you choose to carry it.

Respond. 

And master self.