“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you until it seems that you cannot hold on for a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time when the tide will turn.”
– Harriet Beecher Stowe
Too often, when we do get into that tight place in our life, we give up a little too early. We quit literally just moments in advance of the turning tide. A situation to which I can speak of, having been there more than once. And I will bet that I will be there once again.
But as Ms. Stowe implies, it only “seems that you cannot hold on for a minute longer”.
“Seems” is a subjective state of mind. Fear, anxiety insecurity guides us to follow that chain of thought. Rather than just holding on a minute longer.
And if we allow circumstances such as these to rule the day, “seems” can work its way into our psyche and make the transition to become doubt. A self-induced concoction meant to move us off of perseverance and faith. And then, our doubts will only betray us.
So, speaking from experience, never give up then.
Gird yourself for just another minute.
For that is precisely the place and time when the tide will turn.
“If you can’t live through adversity, you’ll never be good at what you do. You have to live through the unfair things, and you have to develop the hide to not let it bother you and keep your eyes focused on what you have to do.”
— Maurice “Hank” Greenberg
I will go one step further.
It is simply not enough to live through adversity, to choose a path of tolerant coexistence and acceptance. Instead, you have to learn how to embrace another tack, and go far beyond just leaning into it.
You have to figure out how to thrive in it. Because if you are living right, adversity ain’t ever gonna be a “one and done” thing. “If” that something just happens to happen.
Adversity will then always be a “when” event.
That is for certain.
Because if you consistently push out beyond your personal envelope of safety and constantly venture out beyond the confines of comfort, you will be creating guarantors that produce more than your fair share of adversity. The “when” will then always be the operative word to describe the frequency of adversity’s presence in all of your endeavors.
So perhaps at first, leaning directly into an increasing array of challenges isn’t always possible or prudent. After all, they are new surroundings. And this is an acquired taste.
But in time, you will learn to thrive in this environment. Not just in spite of it – but because of it. You will develop a rare sense of perspective. Become adept at recognizing the opportunity that is hidden within every trial and tribulation. And then, proceed to shine in spite of it.
I promise.
Sure a thicker hide will help absorb and deflect the punishment those moments are bound to deliver as Mr. Greenburg asserts.
But a stoutness of character paired with a resolute courage in your convictions will always help you to overcome just about anything.
And not just “if “ they do.
But when they present themselves.
Then, once that begins to happen, things will no longer happen to you.
“A coach is someone who tells you what you don’t want to hear, who has you see what you don’t want to see, so you can be who you have known you could be.”
Coaches see things in you, that you are not ready to see yourself.
Like the precious gems that we know you to be, we aim to clean you up and take off the rough edges.
Over time, you will learn to take on and embrace the luster that we have always known to exist within. So when the moment is right, and your time comes, the world will then see what we knew was always there. Then, everything changes. And you will realize the potential you have been blessed to possess.
So until then, be patient. Persevere. Not only keep the faith within yourself. But also that which we have always had in you.
Allow us to help you burnish the exterior, remove the protective coatings that have been applied over the course of the years and make you all you were meant to be.
After all, that has always been our only goal. One of brilliance.
I do not read nearly as much as I ought. From authors hardbound that is. A trend that is overdue for reversal. Like many of you, scanning and skimming through articles that crawl across various feeds or are born of various searches have become the norm.
Getting the bulk of your reading done in this manner mandates that both electronic, personal and BS filters be set at optimum levels. Yet one enduring positive derivative of this practice is the unrelenting exposure to all sorts of thoughts and words. And if you allow curiosity to assume the point, this begets more opportunity for learning and discernment.
By employing this method, one can stumble upon all sorts of verbiage. Even for the first time in fifty seven some years on this planet, to my chagrin.
Like this one.
“Fecundity”.
Generally speaking, fecundity is defined by various and sundry sites as “the quality or power of producing abundantly; fruitfulness or fertility. Productive or creative power”.
Then, following curiosity’s capable lead, a second site went on to illustrate fecundity further:
“It refers to a powerful productivity, usually in the area of natural growth, either from the earth or by human reproduction. But it can also be used to describe great mental ability and creativity, the ability to create intellectual products. In any case, fecundity has a positive sense, suggesting healthy growth of life-forms and mental abilities.”
Now those of you that have come to know this author’s works may have already sensed the impending drop of the other shoe.
For it was first a post from Bishop Robert Barron that actually begat all of this introspection.
An alert of sorts, announcing his forthcoming Sunday homily, titled surprisingly enough; “The Fecundity of Your Heart”
An amazing turn of the word.
For if you can figure out a way to lead with it, despite the inevitable bruising, battering and bleeding, your heart does have an innate capacity and power to produce in abundance. Especially one crop that seems always in short supply; good.
The Master Gardener enriched that small parcel within each one of us.
The ideal soil to accept the seeds He sows. A “fecundus” environment He purposely designed to provide us with lasting and loving growth.
“God sows his Word into each of our hearts liberally. He does not solely give his grace to those he knows will bear fruit. He sows the Word in everyone, but it doesn’t flourish for each person due to circumstances (secularism, anxiety, the allurement of the world). Strive to counter that by letting the Word open you to the implications of his Lordship. God is always giving himself to you, listen and act.” Bishop Robert Barron
But being rich in its composition and depth, far too often weeds and thistles become tenant farmers within that parcel of our hearts. Lacking due diligence, we neglect the soil. We never develop the necessary commitment to till the land He gave us.
That parcel within may become barren. And His words may never take root.
Our hearts can become overgrown, crowding out the words He continuously and intentionally sows. Not just for one season. But over, and over and over yet again.
God is always giving himself to us. If we can learn to listen, and then, act, we can produce an abundance of good for those around us. And, reap a portion of that harvest yet for ourselves.
Fecundity.
A richness of life the master gardener longingly wants each one of us to experience.
As the prized fruit of the seed of His word, acts and love.
“…We are continually wanting God to behave as we would, that is to say, withdrawing his love from those who don’t deserve it and giving his love to those who do deserve it. But this is just not the way God operates…” Bishop Robert Barron
Bishop Barron has this way of articulating the true essence of things. Peeling back the layers of deception, misconception and misperception that become the obstacles that hinder us from embracing a divine life.
We don’t just want Him to think, speak and act as we would given a certain situation.
We expect it.
Out of hurt, disappointment and despair we impart on Him the worst of our intentions for others. Thinking that’s how He works. Squares things up. By wishing retribution via His hand. Seeking “just” recompense for earthly wrongs from above.
But as the Bishop states; “….this is just not the way God operates.”
I must confess; those represent some of my thoughts, words and deeds. Things I have done. Things I have to own.
Wrongs needing the forgiveness of others. But ultimately the salvation of His mercy. Only then can I move forward.
By bringing Him down to my level, rather than focusing on elevating my game, that distances me from reaching the divine life.
...my temporary assignment. 